5 Sept 2009 – Notes on the breast picture

September 6, 2009 § 5 Comments

1. Earlier this week we published a note called Adventures in Weaning: Cold Turkey in the Great American Desert.

2.I had to make an editorial choice–run this picture that I knew would be polemical, especially with the caption “How is a boy to leave this?” or not run it.

3.When I saw the picture my thoughts were ‘damn she’s beautiful. . .she looks so peaceful. .  .and she looks so tough. . . what kind of drumbeats are playing in the background?’

4. I wasn’t breastfed as a child.

5. Mom told me “it was my instinct to do it, but the doctors at the time told us formula was better. They said it was unsanitary.”

6. I’ve been obsessed with breasts ever since the 4th grade when  Lorrie Haddock’s swelled like waves out of the nowhere.

7. I decided to publish the photo because the note and the writing felt honest, and the caption felt honest to me in some ways as well. How is a baby supposed to give it up? No matter what age it has to be difficult.

8. Lau’s first issue with the photo was that it was ‘sexualizing’ an image of someone from a different culture, exploiting them essentially.

9. Her second issue was that the baby didn’t have volition to “give it up” but was forced to give it up. Also, the age at which the zulu children gave it up wasn’t mentioned.

10. She said that the whole thing seemed ‘poco matador’.

11. I feel like sometimes all I can do is take notes.

12. After the 6th grade dance our whole middle school class walked over to Pizza Hut where we had this all time epic food fight. In the middle of it all, while kids were throwing pizza at each other, this one guy Chris Canard was laughing and cupping Lorrie Haddock’s tits. Then he asked her to set them down on top of the red and white vinyl tablecloth and she did. At the time I was thinking ‘this is so sweet.’

13. Lau’s right, I know. I shouldn’t have run the picture.

14. I wonder what the zulu girl’s name is.

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§ 5 Responses to 5 Sept 2009 – Notes on the breast picture

  • Laura says:

    Amor, acepto tu “mea culpa”, jajaj.
    Solo porque escribís bien, y porque no puedo seguir enojada por esto.
    No digo nada sobre el artículo, cada padre hace lo que puede.

    Pero el epígrafe de la foto es un conjunto poco feliz de “istas” (machista y sexista para empezar).

    Creo que esta mezcla poco feliz -y tan poco “Matadoriana”- de la lactancia y la sexualización que los hombres hacen de los pechos femeninos es vergonzosa. Y no colabora a que las mujeres nos sintamos más cómodas al amamantar en público, o al amamantar a secas.

  • Agustina says:

    A mi la foto es lo que menos me molesto. El articulo me parecio super deshonesto. Por supuesto que entiendo que hay madres (y padres) que pueden decidir no dar mas con la lactancia, y tambien creo que es mejor no continuarla, a amantanar a un hijo con resentemiento. Con la leche materna tambien pasan los sentimientos maternos. En las reuniones de La Liga de la Leche tambien acompanamos a estas mamas que deciden el destete unilateral, y las apoyamos sin juzgar y tratamos de colaborar para que el proceso sea lo mas facil posible para todos los involucrados. Pero lo hacemos con absoluta honestidad, sabemos que no hay nada mejor para un nino que el alimento materno y reconocemos que lo mejor para el nino nunca es el destete forzoso y que si esto sucede, es por que es lo mas conveniente para el madre o el padre, y que es una decision que no involucra al ninio.

    La romantizacion del destete que hay en el articulo es lo que me molesto. El destete transformado en un bonding padre-hijo y un hijo que vuelve del viaje hecho hombre, y liberado. Puaj. La foto me parecio absolutamente adecuada dentro del articulo, solo que es mas explicita, el articulo esta cargado de esa filosofia, solo que mas sutil, a mis ojos, bastante desagradable todo. Si hubiese sido un blog, hubiese pensado ‘esto no va conmigo’ y continuado a otra cosa. Pero no es un blog, es una revista leida por muchisima gente, entonces la molestia es un poco mayor.

    En fin, cosas que pasan, es el mundo en el que vivimos, y a veces filtrar se vuelve complicado.

  • Leigh says:

    I understand why you feel you shouldn’t have posted it, but I think that’s more bc of how general Western society sexualizes nudity.

    Personally, I agree. It’s a beautiful image. She is beautiful. And when I see the image in relation to a discussion on babies and birth, it fits perfectly.

    Then I stop and think about it. That’s when it all gets complicated.

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